There’s nothing wrong with romantic love or sexuality in itself. Again, it’s the way that they get distorted when our lack gets projected into them. Romantic love becomes a problem when we expect our relationship with another person to solve our sense of lack. That places enormous burdens on the relationship, burdens that relationships usually can’t endure because the other person can’t do that for us. The other person cannot be our God. Nevertheless, for many of us it is relationships with other people that open up our hearts to the world. A relationship can open you up to a kind of love that becomes much more than one’s own desire, which is what touches me so deeply about Etty Hillesum. Those who get involved in relationships can realize that sex or the other expectations they have of the relationship aren’t getting them what they want. A common response to that is breaking up: obviously, this isn’t the right person for me; time to find someone else who will fill up my sense of lack. When that person doesn’t work out, we keep looking for someone new, trying to recover that romantic glow. But there’s another possibility: transforming our way of understanding the relationship, so it becomes an opening to something deeper, to seeing through to the other side of our sense of lack, to realizing that there’s something more profound and more creative going on there.
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You Want To Know How To Be Remade?
” […] You want to know how to be remade? Soften your grip on expectations. Embrace and delight in the idea that this is just one option. You know what surrounds you? A hundred fucking beautiful possibilities and we all ought to be blinded by the field of freedom and potential and grace in which we stand. You can leave. You can change. You can start over. You can choose differently, even now.
Maybe more than anything in my life, I am grateful for the proven understanding that we are never stuck. Are never lost. That we are resilient and resilient and resilient. That we are remade again and again and are almost incapable of remaining in the mire, lamenting our original form and comforts. I am so grateful to understand that change (once coped with) seeds adventure and new characters to love and new travels and this invaluable grace and softening. […] “Erica nails it again. (And again, and again, and again with every. single. word.)
it's a lovely universe in us all: The Ten Most Important Messages from the Conversations with God
1. God (Higher Power) talks to each of us all the time. The problem is that we don’t always listen and maybe we may not be aware of the way that he/she talks to us. But he/she does. It may be through intuition, or a coincidence.
2. We are all One!
3. There is enough. There is enough of…
Kindness is the highest form of intelligence.
The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened.
Love brings you face to face with your self. It’s impossible to love another if you cannot love yourself.
We believe we are hurt when we don’t receive love. But that is not what hurts us. Our pain comes when we do not give love. We were born to love. You might say that we are divinely created love machines. We function most powerfully when we are giving love. The world has led us to believe that our wellbeing is dependent on other people loving us. But this is the kind of upside down thinking that has caused so many of our problems. The truth is our well being is dependent on our giving love. It is not about what comes back; it is about what goes out!
